17 Signs of an Emotionally Immature Woman

Women are supposed to mature emotionally more quickly than men, right?

But there are always exceptions to every rule – some women are emotionally immature.

Dating and relationships are hard enough without dealing with emotional immaturity in your chosen partner. 

Perhaps you’ve already spotted some hints that you’re dating an emotionally underdeveloped woman.

If not, you can learn the signs of emotionally immature women by looking out for clues they are not ready for a healthy intimate relationship.

But that doesn’t have to be the end of it. 

You don’t have to throw in the towel even if you are dating a woman who hasn’t grown up. 

If you think there’s something to the relationship worth exploring, there are ways you can help.

What Does Emotional Immaturity Mean?

If someone is emotionally immature, they’re more likely to react as a child or adolescent might rather than an adult.

That’s a simple definition, but when you look at the list below of the signs of an immature woman, you can see that it’s pretty accurate.

The American Psychological Association defines emotional immaturity as “a tendency to express emotions without restraint or disproportionately to the situation.

From that, you can expect that this type of woman may overreact depending on what’s happening or be more emotional than the situation calls for.

As human beings, we tend to expect that adults will have a level of emotional maturity that aligns with their age. But that’s not always the case. 

Whether you are simply friends with an emotionally immature woman or in a relationship with one, it can be challenging to cope with her erratic moods or excessive emotions.

Understanding why she might be the way she is is one place to start. 

Why Are Some Women Emotionally Immature?

Emotional immaturity isn’t just limited to women.

Anyone of any gender may be more or less mature than they should be according to their chronological age, and it can and does vary throughout people’s lives.

Emotional immaturity can occur for various reasons, some of which may stem from early life events.

Here are just some reasons why some women are emotionally immature:

  • One or both parents were emotionally mature, which affected the woman’s behavior.
  • One or both parents were abusive or narcissistic,  making the daughter insecure growing up.
  • Physical or mental trauma can seriously affect an individual’s personality, especially in the early years.
  • An addiction left untreated can manifest as emotional immaturity.
  • Mental health issues caused them to react in emotionally juvenile ways.

No matter why your girlfriend is delayed,  you may notice signs such as selfish behavior, lack of openness about emotional needs, passive-aggressive behavior, and more.

17 Regrettable Signs of an Emotionally Immature Woman

A relationship with an immature woman can be hard, whether she’s a work colleague, a friend, or a romantic partner.

You can help, and it is possible to improve the relationship, but first, you need to know the signs of emotional immaturity:

1. She doesn’t know how to talk about her feelings.

Women need to express themselves in a healthy relationship, whether it’s with a friend, a co-worker, or a romantic partner.

woman holding her head signs of an immature woman

They must identify their emotions and let others know how they feel, especially if there’s a problem or difficulty.

Some immature women simply can’t open up and be vulnerable. Nor can they always admit to themselves how they feel, never mind anyone else.

2. She’d rather walk away than handle conflict.

Because an immature woman has trouble handling deep feelings, any conflict or problems in a relationship can trigger her to walk away rather than try to deal with them.

She may leave temporarily to avoid you while there’s a problem, including when you have any difficulties that she finds overwhelming. It’s not that she doesn’t care, but she doesn’t know how to handle it.

Or she may break up with you altogether rather than handle any uncomfortable conflict.

3. She’ll never compromise.

An emotionally immature woman may focus so much on herself that she doesn’t allow for any empathy for anyone else. This attitude can make it difficult for her to see your point of view or how you might feel. 

And, of course, if she can’t empathize with you, it’s tough to see how she could compromise and find a way to please you both.

4. She is overly needy.

In a healthy relationship, there’s a good balance of time with each other, time with family and friends, and time on your individual hobbies and activities. 

In a relationship with an immature woman, you’ll find she can be clingy and doesn’t like for you to have boundaries, other friends, or interests outside of the relationship.

Her neediness reveals her massive insecurity and immaturity.

5. She can be selfish.

People who haven’t matured tend to focus on themselves. They may make decisions without you and don’t consider you when planning their life.

Everything is about them, and the relationship can feel very one-sided. You may not feel supported, and it’s even possible that you might feel quite alone, even though you’re in a relationship. 

She likely won’t help around the house or in your life, and if you ask her to, she may become aggressive and sulky.

6. She can display passive-aggressive behavior.

Rather than simply expressing her feelings, she may be highly passive-aggressive – unable to ask for what she wants or let you know she’s upset or angry. 

couple in the couch having a conversation signs of an immature woman

Instead, she may sulk, walk away, refuse to speak to you, drop hints, be sarcastic, or behave childishly.

This manipulative and destructive behavior can seriously affect your relationship with her, but understand she doesn’t have the maturity to handle her emotions.

7. She overreacts.

The immature woman can be highly dramatic and enjoy the drama while still upset or angry at whatever has happened.

If the slightest thing goes wrong, such as spilling her drink or forgetting something, she can fly off the handle like it’s the end of the world.

Her anger can be explosive, and she can sound irrationally angry with minor upsets. She doesn’t know how to regulate her emotions or let them out without overreacting.

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8. She can take things very personally.

If she has a problem or disagreement with anyone, she assumes it’s because the person doesn’t like her.

Rather than thinking they had a bad day or were just running late, as anyone else might guess, she takes it personally.

If a relationship breaks down, even if it wouldn’t have worked anyway, she’ll assume that it was because of her and a problem with her personality.

9. She won’t admit that she’s made a mistake.

This woman can’t think she might have made a mistake or done something wrong, and even more difficult for her to admit it and apologize. If you confront her, she’s likely to become more guarded and push back at you.

In the unlikely event that she actually apologizes, it will be a non-apology, like “I’m sorry you feel…” rather than “I’m sorry I did…” or she’ll make it an apology that blames someone else or pushes away any responsibility.

10. She can hold grudges.

If you’ve ever been in a relationship with a woman that could hold grudges for years, you were in a relationship with an immature person. 

People who aren’t mature can hold onto negative emotions and problems from the past and bring them up repeatedly when they have an argument. With this type of person, nothing is ever forgiven or forgotten.

11. She has little or no self-awareness.

Emotionally mature women are self-aware. They understand themselves and know their strength, weaknesses, and how they want to improve themselves. They can accept their flaws without feeling crushed by them.

They’re open-minded and self-assured enough to know that they aren’t perfect and don’t expect themselves to be.

The immature woman tries hard to put up a front and pretend she is perfect. It’s then impossible to reveal her imperfections and admit there are things she can work on.

12. She may feel entitled.

We’ve all heard the description of the dreaded “Karen,” who thinks the world owes her everything and demands to speak to the manager over every little thing. 

couple standing in area with many plants signs of an immature woman

Often, immature people think they should expect perfection from themselves and everyone around them and feel entitled to demand it. If you recognize this behavior in anyone you know, you may be dealing with someone stuck in an adolescent mindset.

13. She is manipulative.

Rather than simply being direct and asking for what she wants, she may instead try to manipulate and push people into giving her what she wants.

She may push and act out in order to manipulate and steer things in the direction she wants.

This behavior is due to difficulty opening up, being vulnerable, and letting people in.

14. She can be judgmental.

Because an emotionally immature woman finds it hard to express her feelings, she may indulge in childish behavior, such as putting down other women, name-calling, or being hyper-critical. 

Partly this is because she may expect perfection from her relationships, especially from you if you’re in a romantic relationship with her. And if she doesn’t get it, she may call you names or criticize you quite harshly.

Though it may not sound like it, this behavior isn’t necessarily because she’s a bad person or trying to be mean. It’s because, yet again, she doesn’t know how to express herself properly.

15. She can be defensive.

Try to talk to her, especially about something deeply emotional or anything she may have done to upset or hurt you, and she may lash out at you before you can finish what you were saying. 

Rather than accept responsibility, it’s easier for an immature woman to be defensive, deflect the behavior on you or pretend it’s your fault.

16. She may be indecisive.

Anyone can have difficulty making decisions sometimes, but an emotionally undeveloped woman may never know what she wants. You may find that she wants you to make all her decisions. If you do but don’t get it right, she may get angry or upset because she can’t express how she feels.

It’s also more than possible that when you decide for her or she chooses an option, she’ll keep changing her mind.

17. She bottles her emotions up and then gets angry.

An immature person may not easily express anger or deal with feeling upset. Instead, she bottles up how she feels and keeps count of everything she isn’t happy with – about you and the relationship – and eventually loses her temper.

Someone with emotional immaturity may have anger issues and struggle to control their temper. She may be unable to deal with intense emotions. She may lash out and call you names or throw accusations at you from everything she’s bottled up.

Things to Do If You’re in a Relationship with an Immature Woman

It can be difficult to deal with if you’re in a relationship with an emotionally stunted woman. There may even be signs she’s too immature for a relationship.

But there are things you can do to help your partner open up and to cope better with her emotions, and it starts with a little patience and kindness on your part:

1. Communicate

You may have to open up and be vulnerable yourself before your partner will do that. Help her see what her behavior is doing to you and to the relationship.

Good communication is a vital part of any kind of relationship; if you communicate well, you can show your partner how to do the same. 

It won’t be an overnight solution, but if you are patient, you can help your partner talk about her feelings, be more vulnerable, and ask for what she wants rather than overreacting.

2. Be Positive Around Your Partner

There are two parts to this.

First, it’s good to be a positive role model and react emotionally maturely to help your partner see what to do instead. You can teach by example, as well as by communicating.

Additionally, giving genuine praise when your partner reacts well instead of badly can give positive reinforcement to encourage her to adjust her behavior.

3. Be Flexible

Learn to adjust to your partner’s moods and respond, so you help rather than fuel the fire.

We’re not suggesting that you walk on eggshells around her. That’s not a healthy way to live for you, and you can only do that for so long.

But it is possible to adapt and take things in your stride while also backing this up with positivity and good communication.

People learn from watching and seeing how other people do things. You can guide your partner to eventually become more emotionally mature as long as she is open to learning and changing.

4. Get Professional Help

If you honestly don’t know what else you can do to help your partner, an excellent option is to seek professional help. 

There are many relationship counselors and therapists available with the experience to help you and your partner talk through any problems and work to find a solution that works for you both.

Don’t suffer in silence when you really don’t need to. If you can’t make headway with your partner on your own, get the right help.

5. If All Else Fails, Move On

You can only do so much – you can’t be responsible for your partner’s happiness. If you’ve done everything you can and know that your partner isn’t responding to your efforts, sadly, it could be time to part ways.

Final Thoughts

You should now be able to recognize the signs of emotionally immature women and understand more about why they behave as they do. 

While you shouldn’t ignore the signs of an immature woman, you can be part of helping your partner mature and perhaps create a better relationship with her than you thought possible.

Is there a woman in your life that acts the way she isn't supposed to act? Read here the signs of an immature woman and see if she is one.

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